So you’ve made an even bigger mountain, I guess, out of a mountain. State why you haven’t engaged and will (if necessary) continue not to engage with her questions.Unhealthy dynamics promote dissembling where directness serves us best, unfortunately. She might not budge, but you will know you made yourself clear.Before you tell, though, I hope you’ll talk to your mom about your frustration with what you see as the milestoning to death of young … I love a man with a great sense of humor and who is intelligent - a man who has a great smile. I like a man who is very ambitious and driven and who has a good heart and makes me feel safe.You can offer warnings when needed and advice when asked, but otherwise take a seat.Losing that friend over your sister’s breakup was hard for you, no doubt.
I have a right not to want people to use apostrophe-S to make something plural.But treating people like your personal marionettes, not the autonomous equals they are, makes you the one controlling, patronizing and ultimately alienating people around you — and the fallout from that hurts so much more in the end.DEAR CAROLYN: My mom is pressuring me to tell her whether my husband and I plan to have kids.We communicate by sharing our thoughts, ideas, and feelings.We enjoy being with someone when we have an easy time communicating or when we have a lot to talk about. But one thing I can say from my dating experience is that a physical attraction will only take you so far.