Can you trust them with difficult or private matters?To move forward into a serious relationship with someone you should feel like you can trust them with your heart and be open and honest with them about things that you would normally keep private from other people.Loneliness is such a debilitating feeling, and it can make you think you need the company of someone else in order to be happy. But if you haven’t figured out how to enjoy your own company, you’re not curing your loneliness – you’re merely suppressing it.
These are really important questions because they show the level of connection and trust that is already between you – when it is solid and you know they have got your back, and you theirs, the question of whether you should get serious or not becomes an easy one.
Talking openly about things helps to build trust and will help prevent conflict or misunderstandings from happening in the future. The best reason to get serious with someone is because you really want to build a life with them because of who they are and how they make you feel. Sometimes people get seriously involved in relationships not because of what is happening in the here and now but to try and heal, or escape, from the hurt of something that happened in the past.
If you are still hooked up on someone and using a new partner as a type of sticking plaster it is unfair as you are likely to be comparing them with your ex and may never really be fully committed if you believe they are second best. Although it is important that you live in present you need to be able to fast forward a little and see yourself in the future with this person before you get serious. Before you get serious with someone ask yourself how you treat each other – is it with love, respect and consideration for each other’s feelings?
Are you mentally and emotionally in the right place to give your love to someone else?
Here are a few questions you should ask yourself first.