“Most of my discomfort was expressed in me pulling away and mumbling.
After arriving at his apartment in Manhattan on Monday evening, they exchanged small talk and drank wine. “I didn’t get to choose and I prefer red, but it was white wine.” Then Ansari walked her to Grand Banks, an Oyster bar onboard a historic wooden schooner on the Hudson River just a few blocks away. They discussed NYU, comedy and a new, secret project he was working on, but she says she did most of the talking.
’ and I go, ‘Oh, yeah, sure,’ and he goes, ‘Well, if I poured you another glass of wine now, would it count as our second date? “I said I don’t want to feel forced because then I’ll hate you, and I’d rather not hate you,” she said.
’” He then poured her a glass and handed it to her. Grace says she spent around five minutes in the bathroom, collecting herself in the mirror and splashing herself with water. And then, as he rose to prominence, he focused less on his own sexual disenfranchisement and more on pressing societal issues like racism and sexual assault, a move that’s earned him tons of praise.
“I wasn’t really even thinking of that, I didn’t want to be engaged in that with him.
But he kept asking, so I said, ‘Next time.’ And he goes, ‘Oh, you mean second date?